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In this episode you’ll learn:
- How to begin motivating yourself to the highest level
- What it means to live a life of purpose or leadership
- Why family and friends may roadblock your personal journey
- Why and being and not doing might be a better measure for your success
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In this episode, part two of our conversation, listen to Dave Ursillo talk about how he sought more authenticity and meaning in his life having left a well paid position in politics to become a writer, yoga teacher and communications specialist.
We focus on the importance of leadership, people and relationships as well as how to become more unapologetically you. We discuss what that means and how this can help you to live a life with greater truth.
We discuss the challenges that living more authentically will bring into your life, work and relationships.
Also hear about how Dave was encouraged back into the yoga classroom having been seen by a stranger.
You can hear part one here.
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Being unapologetically you
“Being in the face of uncertainty feels very threatening.” – Dave Ursillo
[0:00:42] Thanks to Andrea Still for the iTunes review.
[0:01:14] Rob reviews episode 027 with Dave Ursillo.
[0:02:31] Rob asks Dave about the concept of being unapologetically you in the context of serving others.
[0:02:57] It’s not about knowing better than someone else, being right and never wrong, succeeding and not failing. Shedding layers and identities. Getting through using whatever means possible.
[0:03:35] Embracing those external things to get to the core of who you are.
[0:04:01] Wanting to belong. Being accepted by the pack. Rejection threatens us with the feeling of death. Amygdala. Fight or flight. Starbucks.
[0:05:12] Being the captain of your ship. Be who you are. Being unapologetically you is your truth coming.
“We live our lives to fit in with others at the expense of what feels right by us.” – Dave Ursillo
Becoming who we already are
[0:05:37] Finding that sense of home within us is magical. Universal qualities.
[0:06:23] How peace, love and acceptance of yourself can create a new path to you loving, accepting, cherishing and serving everyone else.
[0:06:53] Tapping into a sense of self that is fundamentally equal to all others. Loving service and leadership. Giving. Charity. Social Justice.
[0:07:14] When we see differences that’s when we register threats.
[0:07:55] More meaningful service with others through subtraction.
[0:08:25] Life-long practice. You can’t pass a finish line. There’s no destination to reach. This can be daunting. As a human being you are always changing.
[0:08:51] Dynamics of relationships, work and our needs, desires and contribution is always changing.
The journey is the reward
[0:09:56] Doing what you can wherever you are to find fulfillment and sense of love. Not worrying about who you are going to be.
[0:10:17] Trusting that the you of the future will adjust accordingly.
[0:10:39] Hyper-focused and aware of doing what you can today. Being the best father, brother and teaching the best yoga class you can today.
[0:10:56] How will ultimately succeed or fail.
[0:11:13] Living your life and assessing the quality of your own value system. How we ultimately find our sense of success or failure.
Being vs. Doing. Freedom.
[0:12:11] Doing is a fundamental part of life. Why defining success and fulfillment by doing is enslaving yourself to a deficit minded way of living.
[0:12:40] Finding fulfillment in being vs. doing. More fame, money or followers.
[0:12:56] There’s a necessary balance to our lives. Weeks and weekends.
[0:13:30] Giving. Serving. Receiving. Resting. Henry David Thoreau.
[0:13:50] Nature. Eating well. Becoming aware of mind, body, strength. Active energy in the day. Sleeping well.
[0:15:00] Vibrationally your best self. Bringing your best to the table. Yoga has been a large part of Dave’s life over the last three years.
[0:15:27] Doing something every day without a consciousness to it, loses its meaning.
[0:16:00] Spending time with people everyday is fundamental.
[0:16:26] Relationships require a lot of responsibility and commitment.
Community, people and relationships
[0:16:42] Rob asks Dave how he makes a point of consciously connecting with people.
[0:16:50] Community aspect of yoga. The power of yoga being a communal experience.
[0:17:27] Going to yoga just for a hug. Mood. Happiness. Meeting people. Cycles in thought.
[0:17:55] Changing your point of view by seeing through the eyes of others.
[0:18:22] Basic empathy and compassion. Super-human qualities.
Writing to open up
[0:18:45] Insecurity. Vulnerability. Story as a vessel.
[0:19:00] Spending time out in the world is paramount.
[0:19:10] Rob asks Dave if he starts or finishes his day with yoga.
[0:19:30] Teaching yoga. Sun salutations. Stretching and strengthening the body. Presence. Breath.
[0:20:38] Rob asks Dave how he discovered yoga.
[0:20:46] P90X. Learning basic asanas (poses / postures.)
The power of being seen by somebody
“It’s very powerful to be seen and recognised by another human being.” – Dave Ursillo
[0:21:45] Travelling to San Diego in 2011. Visiting a local studio. Dave’s friend Molly. Stratejoy.
[0:22:10] Connecting with a local yoga teacher. Growing up socially averse.
[0:22:50] The story of why Dave was encouraged back into the yoga classroom.
[0:23:45] That feeling of somebody else who didn’t know Dave caring enough to tell Dave to come back to the yoga room. Loyalty.
[0:24:20] Rob asks how Dave approaches the challenges of being more authentically you. The challenges of uncertainty and belonging.
[0:25:29] Getting to know yourself better. Shed what no longer serves you. Outgrowing friendships.
Letting go and facing uncertainty
[0:25:50] Being more aware of the influences that shape you.
[0:26:11] Being protective of your energy and your soul.
[0:26:39] People exiting your life. More likely to choose a relationship for good reasons.
[0:27:28] Letting go and not trying to hold on to too much. Branching out. Facing uncertainty.
[0:28:00] Friends and family might put up a bit of a fight. This can be daunting and heart-breaking.
[0:29:39] Circumstances, challenges, relationships, hardships, struggles are temporary. Even relationships are temporary even though relationships are everything.
The power of becoming more unapologetically you
[0:29:59] Sacrificing your sense of truth or authenticity or passion for a romantic relationship. Consequences for your truth.
[0:30:58] This is the one perspective you’ll have for the rest of your life. Your lifestyle being a product of who you are.
[0:31:30] Tail-end of the lifestyle design fad.
[0:32:00] Rob asks Dave what’s inspired him over the last week. Dave talks about a close friend of his. Being not doing. Little victories. Letting go of your own cares. Keeping on your own path.
[0:33:16] Rob asks Dave what he is most grateful for today.
[0:34:22] Where you can find out more about Dave and his work.
“There are few people we will get to know better than our own selves…” – Dave Ursillo
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Links, people and resources mentioned in this episode:
- Overcrowded Yoga, Pink Hair and an Ounce of Kindness: A Story
- Dave Ursillo
- Henry David Thoreau
- Stratejoy
- Alive in Berlin
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